WHY CHARACTER BUILDING IS ESSENTIAL

Africa is said to be the ‘youngest continent’, with almost half of its population below 40yrs. As of 2016, 80 percent of Kenya’s population was below 35 years. To a very large extent, Kenya’s youth is defined as individuals between the ages of 18 and 35 year, which will determine the shape of the country’s future. But their potential is not being tapped by the education system as expected, why? This is all because our Education system is not well modelled to bring out the best in an individual.

For Human development, an Education system should balance on developing the 4 spheres in an Holistic way, that is MENTAL, PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL AND SOCIAL. Unfortunately, our Education system, particularly here in my country Kenya, does not balance the four. More focus is on Mental and Physical, touches spiritual in a small way, but completely ignores the Social part of an individual.

More cooperates are now looking to employ individual of high character rather than high intelligence, its no longer about the grade one possesses but the Character one practices. I personally believe an individual character is developed through social quotient and not intelligence quotient. Most young people are graduating with just the grades but no character attributes, most young people are finding it hard to find jobs because of their poor attitude, poor communication skills, poor integrity, attributes designed in Character building, which is missing in our schools.

I founded MIG EDUCATION 2 years ago, an organization focused in CULTIVATING young people to discover their potential, through trainings, forums and workshops that focus on an individual’s social intelligence on building a high character. I am passionate about teaching, training and coaching, and I believe SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE, the 4th sphere of human development, if well administered, changes the Caliber, the Character and the future of an individual. Our training sessions are Motivative, Educative and Inspiring, coined as ( ME & I) , and are modelled on 4 key areas, that we believe are core in Character building

 Social intelligence and Interpersonal skills
 Communication skills
 Life skills / Employability skills
 Social driven leadership skills (Value, Vision, Virtue)

We commit in organizing for sessions in different secondary schools at least every Weekend / Saturday, focusing on schools with an average of 100 students for a larger impact. In addition, we organize for the sessions during vacations in different localities, with a target of at least 50 students for a single session. Fo the last 2 years, we have reached out to more than 1200 students, and we believe by the end of every training, we changed their way of thinking, their career decision in positive ways, and largely changed their lives in general. As our mission statement states, at MIG EDUCATION, we are committed in CULTIVATING the young individuals, by planting seeds of character, watering them with MOTIVATION, pruning them with EDUCATIVE materials and weeding out negative attitude with INSPIRING and success stories (ME & I model)

CAREER expert, Josphine Munroe says the key to making your career work for you is to uncover your hidden desires and secret ambitions. Its not uncommon to hear of a student who studied engineering only to discover that their talent and passion was in journalism, or even swimming. Often students parachute into college figuring they will determine their career goal along the way, an expensive, and often ultimately unproductive, tactic. Young students overwhelmed with the task of making major educational and career decisions often don’t take the opportunity to understand what makes them tick, to discover their potential, their ‘WHY’, and this is the major bridge that MIG EDUCATION seeks to provide. by cultivating the youth generations right from the roots. Monitoring and involving students from early stages of schooling, by proper and adequate career guidance, and trainings that help them discover their potential through character building

In MIG, we also believe that Community volunteership is Core in building an individual’s character, the more we give the happier we feel, community volunteership increases the confidence of an individual, natural sense of commitment, and enhances individual pride and identity, which are are key in self discovery, in discovering an individual’s potential, and for them to understand what they were cut for. We believe three important days for an individual is the day they were born, the day they discover why, and the day they bring that why into the world. We believe community service helps an individual discover their WHY. We believe that all students should undergo a community volunteership program before joining the job sector. This young people need to go back to their communities and serve pro-bono, that enhances the goodness in an individual and build their character.

That’s why we developed MIG Volunteers Lions Club (VLC), that focuses on building a community volunteership spirit in university students. MIG organizes sessions and forums in Universities to discuss on benefits of community volunteership, and why it is paramount for young people to have the spirit of humanity in them. We are proud members of Center for African Volunteers, and Lions Club international, movements that enhance volunteership. MIG EDUCATION has a long term vision of establishing an academy and a university. AFRITA (AFRIcan TAlent) Institutions, Academy and university will be built on courage, strength and determination to MOTIVATE, INSPIRE and GROW young African leaders from the traditional system norms into independent minded individuals who launch their own course into becoming great African Economic, social, entrepreneur and civic leaders with positive impact in their respective communities and Countries

I personally believe that each of us should be cultivated from young age to discover their why, and I am focused and committed in guiding the young people in discovering their potential by way of building their character, which I believe is a major solution to our Traditional Education System

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The Character Ethic vs. The Personality Ethic – Why Character Trumps Personality

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As Stephen Covey writes in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, most of the success literature published in the United States for the first 150 years focused on The Character Ethicas being the foundation of success. Things like integrity, humility, simplicity, fairness, modesty, love, courage, justice, and the Golden Rule.

However, shortly after World War I, Covey explains, the basic view of success shifted from the Character Ethic to The Personality Ethic.

In these books, the driving force behind success was shown to be an individual’s personality – as opposed to character.

Things like public image, how you dress, how you perform in social interactions; positive mental attitude, skills and techniques to get people to behave in certain ways.

While some of this newer literature briefly discussed the importance of character, it became mostly lip service – as long as you say and do the right things and package yourself in the right ways, you will be likely to get the results you want.

Since I was born in the late 1980’s, I had virtually no experience with the success literature from the earlier, Character Era.

Instead, I was raised on a steady diet of Personality.

All of the success books I read or listened to said that you should smile, dress nice, say and do the right things – and if you look good and appear interested in other people, you can pretty much get what you want in life.

I had unwittingly been taught to try and control, manipulate, and maneuver my way through life – without ever taking into account Who I Really Am or what I actually wanted to do.

It occurred to me that this was the height of irony – because, as all these books and programs had been telling us on one hand that this is the way to “get what you want in life”…

The hidden – or no-so-hidden – message in all of these programs is also: “Fake it until you make it.”

Meaning: “You can fake people out and it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter who YOU are; just make other people LIKE YOU and you’ll get what you want you most of the time.”

Wow. That was a stunning realization for me.

Because I was shocked to realize that while I had been mostly faking my way through life – because I had no idea who I was or what I really wanted…

I also realized how many people I had been manipulated by, who had done the exact same thing to ME – because we’d all been reading the same books!

All I had ever tried to do was change my personality

Because that’s what I was told to do: Change Who I Was.

Because I assumed that I had to do that…

Because that’s what all these books told me to do, in order to succeed in this world.

The fact is, in all these books, I never heard anyone talk about what character IS or how important it is – or even mention that you should have it!

As I teach my clients in The Power Habits® System, every day I see more and more how important it is to get back to The Character Ethic.

How do you do that?

As Stephen Covey (my first unofficial mentor) often said (I’m paraphrasing): “The fastest way to build character is to make a promise and keep it.”

I wholeheartedly agree.

Because isn’t it true that the most important – and easiest to judge – measure of a person’s character is to see if they do what they say they’re going to do.

There’s another old saying: “After all is said and done, more is said than done.”

Ain’t THAT the truth!

It’s so easy to SAY you’re going to do something…

“I’m going to write my book… I’m going to fix the lawnmower… I’m going to get in shape…”

But when push comes to shove, and the going gets tough, that’s when our WORDS tend to fall short of our ACTIONS.

“Oh, I’ll write when I feel inspired… I’ve got some important TV watching to do…”

By the way, have you ever noticed when the going gets tough?

Exactly – all the time!

There are always roadblocks, reversals, things we didn’t expect that come up.

That’s called LIFE.

And the truth is that most people would rather have EXCUSES than SUCCESS.

So ask yourself a simple question:

“Would I rather have excuses or success?”

And for the word success – just substitute what you want – e.g., money, health, happiness, peace of mind…

The truth is, there are always excuses not to take action.

Excuses are EASY.

Excuses, however, are just another form of letting ourselves be run by FEAR and letting our lives be guided by fear – the belief in “not-enough.”

Yet as Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “Inside of us, we know that on the other side of fear lies freedom.”

Noah’s Note: Working on your Personality without improving your Character is like building your house on a foundation of sand. 

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HOW TO FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE

Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money. Between ages 18 and 25, I changed career aspirations more often than I changed my underwear. And even after I had a business, well, and killed it down, it wasn’t until I was 29 that I clearly defined what I wanted for my life.
Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?” “What am I passionate about?” “What do I not suck at?”

1. Notice dreams and signs. …

The subconscious has ways of letting you know if you’re heading in the right direction. Pay attention to the things that happen in your life, the people you meet, the things you notice, the places you are drawn to. Upon waking, actively connect to your dreams – keep a pad by the bed to write things down, and let their symbolism work on you.

2. Think about what you used to love. …

When I was a child, I used to write stories and draw, I remember I had a full book of a creative soap opera in my boarding school box. I used to sit for hours by myself, writing away, about aliens, about superheroes, about great warriors, about my friends and family. Not because I wanted anyone to read it. Not because I wanted to impress my parents or teachers. But for the sheer joy of it.

And then, for some reason, I stopped. And I don’t remember why.

We all have a tendency to lose touch with what we loved as a child. Something about the social pressures of adolescence and professional pressures of young adulthood squeezes the passion out of us. We’re taught that the only reason to do something is if we’re somehow rewarded for it

It wasn’t until I was in my mid-20s that I rediscovered how much I loved writing, something I did in my early teens, just for fun.

3. Notice what feels good, what keep you going,,,,,

We’ve all had that experience where we get so wrapped up in something that minutes turn into hours and hours turn into “Holy crap, I forgot to have dinner.”

Supposedly, in his prime, Isaac Newton’s mother had to regularly come in and remind him to eat because he would go entire days so absorbed in his work that he would forget.

I as long as can remember been fascinated by reading leadership articles, stories about how political leaders emerged successful, and those who failed, why they failed, I have read soo many stories I actually find myself going through same articles again unknowingly. This love for leadership became part of me, I discovered I had this passion and hidden desire to be a community leader that I decided to adjust my career into it. Today, everything I do, time I spend, people I network with, places I visit, they all align to my leadership dreams

Maybe for you, it’s something else. Maybe it’s organizing things efficiently, or getting lost in a fantasy world, or teaching somebody something, or solving technical problems. Whatever it is, don’t just look at the activities that keep you up all night, but look at the cognitive principles behind those activities that enthrall you. Because they can easily be applied elsewhere

4. Be part of saving the world,,,

The world is fucked up, believe you me, the problems are soo many and intense we are all going to die. But can do something before that time comes, we can all do something

So pick a problem and start saving the world. There are plenty to choose from. Our screwed up education systems, economic development, domestic violence, mental health care, governmental corruption. Hell, I just saw an article this morning on sex trafficking in the US and it got me all riled up and wishing I could do something. It also ruined my breakfast.

Find a problem you care about and start solving it. Obviously, you’re not going to fix the world’s problems by yourself. But you can contribute and make a difference. And that feeling of making a difference is ultimately what’s most important for your own happiness and fulfillment.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Gee Reuben, I read all of this horrible stuff and I get all pissed off too, but that doesn’t translate to action, much less a new career path.”

Good question,

 Ask yourself, if someone put a gun to your head and forced you to leave your house every day for everything except for sleep, how would you choose to occupy yourself? And no, you can’t just go sit in a coffee shop and browse Facebook. You probably already do that. Let’s pretend there are no useless websites, no video games, no TV. You have to be outside of the house all day every day until it’s time to go to bed — where would you go and what would you do?

Sign up for a dance class? Join a book club? Go get another degree? Invent a new form of irrigation system that can save the thousands of children’s lives in rural Africa? Learn to hang glide?

What would you do with all of that time?

If it strikes your fancy, write down a few answers and then, you know, go out and actually do them

5. What would you want people to say in your funeral?,,,

I have in several times thought about what people will say about me in my funeral, sometimes I laugh about it when I picture my friends trying to say all sort of goodies about me yet I was heel in their lives,,,but thats not the point, the point is, you need to think about your funeral day, what will you be remembered after you are gone

What is your legacy going to be? What are the stories people are going to tell when you’re gone? What is your obituary going to say? Is there anything to say at all? If not, what would you like it to say? How can you start working towards that today?

And again, if you fantasize about your obituary saying a bunch of badass shit that impresses a bunch of random other people, then again, you’re failing here.

Discovering one’s “purpose” in life essentially boils down to finding those one or two things that are bigger than yourself, and bigger than those around you. It’s not about some great achievement, but merely finding a way to spend your limited amount of time well. And to do that you must get off your couch and act, and take the time to think beyond yourself, to think greater than yourself, and paradoxically, to imagine a world without yourself.

6. Turn down the distractions. …Connect to your core.
Your core is your stabilizer; physically, emotionally, and mentally. When you feel off in a work out, or in your day, or notice a negative thought or insecurity arise, engage your belly. Draw your stomach in, and up – hold it, then take some deep breathes and you will immediately center yourself in a powerful way. It’s a very simple, life-changing tool.

Pay attention to what keeps coming back

Through the Gym, Yoga, meditation, prayer, or just a silent moment with yourself, always find out what connects you to your core to avoid distractions

7. Drop From Your Head to Your Heart

Your heart is your best tool to access your true purpose and passion. Ask yourself what you love? Start taking steps to do what you love. When you are inspired and connected to your happy self, inspiration floods your heart and soul. When you lead from your heart, you are naturally more joyful and motivated to explore. By doing what you love, you will be inspired and gain insights into what brings you the most joy.
And the most important above all ,,,

7. BE patient, Don’t expect your calling to delivered via express mail

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Your Network Is Your Net Worth

Everything that you allow into your life and every action you take reflects who you are.

“Let your grind be a reflection of the standards that you have set for yourself.”

Your Network Is Your Net Worth

It’s important to keep high standards in all aspects of your life. Look for coworkers, friends and even a romantic partner that bring out the best in you.

By removing the toxicity from your life and seeking people that will accept nothing less than excellence from you, you set yourself up to achieve your dreams.

People make bad decisions for many reasons. Their mindsets, lack of self-expertise, and following societal norms are three of the reasons they make poor decisions.

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

Solitude Is The Key To Finding Balance In Today’s Digital World

Freedom is a state of mind rather than a specific condition of existence.

“What a man sees depends upon what he looks at and also upon what his previous visual conceptual experience has taught him to see.”

A western anthropologist is told by a man that 2 + 2 = 5. The anthropologist asks him how he knows this. The tribesman says, “By counting, of course. First, I tie two knots in a cord. Then I tie two knots in another cord. When I join the two cords together, I have five knots.”

It’s not how many challenges we’ve been through that differentiate us, it’s how we see these challenges that matter.

We live in a world where most of our perceptions of others are based on an identity that they’ve constructed.

“get busy living, or get busy dying.”

sometimes necesisty is the mother of deception

it always works out in the end,if it has not worked out its not the end

intentions can change reality

nothing is a coincidence everything is connected
perception is reality

Cognitive Dissonance is an internal conflict where two opposing attitudes, beliefs, or behaviors struggle for precedence.

Our dissonance fluctuates depending on the values that we attach to our beliefs.

NB: I dont know who wrote this, dont quote me, hehe

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Facebooking is not blogging, stop terming yourself as a blogger after 2 facebook posts, you are not

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Every few months we see some articles posted in the New York Times or the Wall Street Journal or some other Prestigious local News Outlet about the thousands of abandoned blogs scattered all over the Web created by boring people who weren’t loved enough as children. People who jumped on the blogging bandwagon thinking it was their ticket to widespread validation, head pats and where they could unload their drama about how traumatic high school was. But (SHOCKINGLY!) no one cared. No one commented. No one offered them a book deal. And they weren’t even cast in a movie with Brad Pitt. So they abandoned their blog, all whiny and disillusioned. Cry me a river.

And sadly, hundreds of new boring ass blogs are created every day by more whiny ass people. And what’s great about it, is that it’s always blogging that is blamed for their failure

The problem is you didn’t post anything interesting. It was only your sister commenting because you were boring. You provided no value to anyone outside of your immediate family. You weren’t writing a blog, that was a post. You were writing your christmas letter to your auntie. Not even your family is interested in that letter. That’s why it’s crumpled up the kitchen drawer right now.

images (3)The problem with facebook posts is its not enough to tell a story, and It’s that anyone can do it. Unfortunately, most people shouldn’t. Because they’re boring. And they have nothing to say. So instead of using the Web to be interesting, they just start talking about their day as if people care. And they do that until they realize that no one does cares and then they blame blogging for their failure.
The new buzzword seems to be “influencer” and I have to agree that it sounds more legit. Because influencer is so new, there are no superficial, silly associations with it like there are when you deem yourself a blogger. When people hear blogger they think of someone who prances around playing dress up and we all know that’s not the case.

As an influencer, you are the content curator, photographer, editor, marketer, sales rep, accountant, negotiator, and brand ambassador… You get the idea – it’s a lot!

Influencer is a much more enticing title because of its empowering nature. Think about it… You are an influencer because you influence people’s decisions. How cool is that?! Whether it’s what they buy, where they eat, or how they live, you have a say in it, Those are the people who have become “famous” from blogging, like one of my inspirational mentors, Biko Zulu

Even if you’re on the lower end of the blogging scale, friends usually listen to other friend’s recommendations, so just by having one friend recommend you as a source of inspiration, it makes a huge impact.

And I’m tired of it. I’m tired of the whiny lifestyle facebook wanabee “bloggers”. I’m tired of hearing all the excuses for why you suck 

And I understand why.

Blogging is kind of like the film industry. A fraction of the people who move to Hollywood with big dreams and stars in their eyes actually deserve and achieve real success. The rest of the wannabes take jobs as waiters and continue to call themselves actors.

Most people start blogging thinking it’s a magic bullet. It’s not. Even if you started in the early ‘90s, it wasn’t. A blog can absolutely help people find success. But it’s only going to make you successful if you were already going to be successful. That is, if you’re an interesting person. If you have something interesting to say. If you have a story. If you can do something with your blog. But most people aren’t interesting. They’re not special. And they’re not pretty either. Your mother was lying to you. So is your spouse.

Here’s the simple truth: A facebook post won’t make you a blogger, it will just emphasize the fact that you are not, and you can never be. That’s why most blogs fail. Not because blogging is overhyped or because people “lose interest”. It’s because you treated your blog like your family newsletter and no one cared. If you’re going to start a blog in 2017, for God’s sake, be interesting. Find a niche that you can stand out in and where you can offer something valuable. Otherwise, do all of us a favor and play your league, facebook, or at least create a Twitter account instead.

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What is your Purpose in Life?

It can be very frustrating to know that you’re called to do something Good for the world, but aren’t sure where to really put your energy. It’s sometimes hard to know where to start.logofinal

To explore the Good that is in you, and to discover ways to bring it to the world that don’t involve throwing everything to the wind and trusting completely in the Law of Attraction and affirmations to lead the way (great as those things are!), you first need to get away from the “finding your purpose” thinking.

In the circles I play in online and off, there is much talk about Finding your Purpose, Discovering your You-ness, and living a life of freedom and fun, while making a great living and being financially secure. Lots of people will tell you that all you need to do to live the life you want, with financial freedom, flow, and as much zen in your day-to-day life as you desire is to just Be You. Follow your passions! Let your freak flag fly! Be brave and do your own thing. Do it your own way. Write your own rules. Find that thing that is uniquely you and find a way to package it, share it, and evangelize about it. Just do it. Leap! Go! Right now!!

But what if you don’t know what it is you’re meant to be bringing to the world?

What if you have a lot of ideas and have tried lots of paths and just can’t quite get into the right circumstances, or mindset, or flow to discover the best way to bring light and Goodness to the world and still be able to pay the mortgage every month?

What if “just follow your passions” doesn’t quite work?

It’s probably not your fault if you’re finding it hard to figure out what you’re here to do. The journey of discovering where you should put your energy, and what Good you’re here to do is sometimes filled with detours, side-tracks and stumbles.

Every one of us has the capacity to make life better, easier, or more enjoyable for someone else. Every. Single. One of us. You are filled with Good stuff.

We all have things we can do well. Multiple things, in fact. You have gifts, passions, purposes, treasures, and skills that can be unleashed on the world in any number of ways. You can bring light and Goodness to the world no matter what you decide to put your energy into! Your Good comes out in any environment if you let it.

Your Good is the thing that helps others find connection to their own humanity. It is unique to you, and comes through you, with the help of your skills, knowledge and experiences.

But if you are feeling called to bring something new into the world, such as a nonprofit organization, charity, NGO, or social enterprise, you might have Good Work to do in the world. And it’s important to understand that this kind of work is not who you are, and is not necessarily your “purpose.”

Your Good Works are the containers, structures, organizations, and physical spaces that allow this connection to come into the world. You are but the vessel!

Your Good Works are not you. They only flow through you.  It’s your job to be the vessel and to help build the structures and physical spaces for your something new to come into the world.

So there is nothing to “discover” or “find.” Your job is to BUILD!

Your Good Work needs you to build the mechanisms, structures, and containers that allow it to live in the world in some physical way, and then do the inner work of preparing yourself to be the vessel for it to flow through.

Your skills, experiences, mindset and gifts facilitate this flow, but they aren’t the things that bring your Good Works into the world alone.

You will need:

  • To build a foundation and structure that will protect and sustain it
  • Fuel and food to give this new thing energy to grow
  • Direction, vision and courage to keep going no matter what

    I have ventured into the charity world and started a not-for-profit initiative, which I will tell you more about soon, I believe thats my purpose in Life, to help others attain their potential, to be the vessel, whats your purpose?
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What men WANT is not really WHAT they NEED

Wow, it has been long we met here, how are you guys, hopefully you all doing fine. Of you who had resolutions 2016, kindly dont read this, use the remaining time you have this year to get that wedding together, after all, you got two more weekends, luck with that

Its not that I have not been writing, only that my focus has been absorbed else where, visit my other two blogs ( http://www.masakunews.wordpress.com, http://www.theguard1an.wordpress.com ,) and engage me

Now, this article aint about why have been away, its actually about why am back today. Do you wanna know why? because I think I finally broke it, yes, I did, I took some books, googled around, engaged men and women, and I finally got the answer or rather I feel I did get the answer to “Why people get it wrong in choosing a marriage partner’,  although I will cover what men and need in a partner in terms of the Pareto Principle, more commonly referred to as the 80/20 Rule.

If you aren’t aware, the 80/20 Rule states that in just about anything you do, 80% of your effort will produce 20% of your results, and 20% of your effort will create 80% of the results. It’s used all the time in a wide array of areas of study, including economics, business and self-help among others. 20% of your customers will give you 80% of your profits. 80% of your friends you’ll only hang out with 20% of the time. 20% of a country’s wealth will come from 80% of its population. On and on… it can be applied to almost anything.

I’m of the opinion that the 80/20 rule is often abused to justify men’s failures or successes with women (more often failure), however the fundamental notion is both observable and easily verifiable in-field as well as statistically

How do we apply it here, 80% of men get it wrong in choosing a partner, why, because they go for just 20% in her, which is basically WHAT they need. Only 20% get it right, by looking for a partner who is 80% what they actually NEED

The woman a man WANTS is not necessarily The woman a man NEEDS

We all WANT her with BIG ass, but actually what we NEED is a woman with a BIG heart
 
We all WANT her in HIGH heels but we actually need is a woman with HIGH morals
 
We all WANT her in a nice MATERIAL, but what we actually NEED is a wife MATERIAL
 
We all want one who LOVES us, but what we men actually need is a woman who RESPECTS us
 
We all WANT a self dependent woman, but you know what we NEED, one who depends on us, and appreciates it, thats what massages our ego, the feeling of importance
 
A knowledgeable man will look out for the WANTS, a wise man will look out for the NEEDS

So fellow men, when looking for a woman to be your wife, watch out for 80% what you NEED and just 20% of what you actually WANT

@mwanaareginah

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