What is your Purpose in Life?

It can be very frustrating to know that you’re called to do something Good for the world, but aren’t sure where to really put your energy. It’s sometimes hard to know where to start.logofinal

To explore the Good that is in you, and to discover ways to bring it to the world that don’t involve throwing everything to the wind and trusting completely in the Law of Attraction and affirmations to lead the way (great as those things are!), you first need to get away from the “finding your purpose” thinking.

In the circles I play in online and off, there is much talk about Finding your Purpose, Discovering your You-ness, and living a life of freedom and fun, while making a great living and being financially secure. Lots of people will tell you that all you need to do to live the life you want, with financial freedom, flow, and as much zen in your day-to-day life as you desire is to just Be You. Follow your passions! Let your freak flag fly! Be brave and do your own thing. Do it your own way. Write your own rules. Find that thing that is uniquely you and find a way to package it, share it, and evangelize about it. Just do it. Leap! Go! Right now!!

But what if you don’t know what it is you’re meant to be bringing to the world?

What if you have a lot of ideas and have tried lots of paths and just can’t quite get into the right circumstances, or mindset, or flow to discover the best way to bring light and Goodness to the world and still be able to pay the mortgage every month?

What if “just follow your passions” doesn’t quite work?

It’s probably not your fault if you’re finding it hard to figure out what you’re here to do. The journey of discovering where you should put your energy, and what Good you’re here to do is sometimes filled with detours, side-tracks and stumbles.

Every one of us has the capacity to make life better, easier, or more enjoyable for someone else. Every. Single. One of us. You are filled with Good stuff.

We all have things we can do well. Multiple things, in fact. You have gifts, passions, purposes, treasures, and skills that can be unleashed on the world in any number of ways. You can bring light and Goodness to the world no matter what you decide to put your energy into! Your Good comes out in any environment if you let it.

Your Good is the thing that helps others find connection to their own humanity. It is unique to you, and comes through you, with the help of your skills, knowledge and experiences.

But if you are feeling called to bring something new into the world, such as a nonprofit organization, charity, NGO, or social enterprise, you might have Good Work to do in the world. And it’s important to understand that this kind of work is not who you are, and is not necessarily your “purpose.”

Your Good Works are the containers, structures, organizations, and physical spaces that allow this connection to come into the world. You are but the vessel!

Your Good Works are not you. They only flow through you.  It’s your job to be the vessel and to help build the structures and physical spaces for your something new to come into the world.

So there is nothing to “discover” or “find.” Your job is to BUILD!

Your Good Work needs you to build the mechanisms, structures, and containers that allow it to live in the world in some physical way, and then do the inner work of preparing yourself to be the vessel for it to flow through.

Your skills, experiences, mindset and gifts facilitate this flow, but they aren’t the things that bring your Good Works into the world alone.

You will need:

  • To build a foundation and structure that will protect and sustain it
  • Fuel and food to give this new thing energy to grow
  • Direction, vision and courage to keep going no matter what

    I have ventured into the charity world and started a not-for-profit initiative, which I will tell you more about soon, I believe thats my purpose in Life, to help others attain their potential, to be the vessel, whats your purpose?
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What men WANT is not really WHAT they NEED

Wow, it has been long we met here, how are you guys, hopefully you all doing fine. Of you who had resolutions 2016, kindly dont read this, use the remaining time you have this year to get that wedding together, after all, you got two more weekends, luck with that

Its not that I have not been writing, only that my focus has been absorbed else where, visit my other two blogs ( http://www.masakunews.wordpress.com, http://www.theguard1an.wordpress.com ,) and engage me

Now, this article aint about why have been away, its actually about why am back today. Do you wanna know why? because I think I finally broke it, yes, I did, I took some books, googled around, engaged men and women, and I finally got the answer or rather I feel I did get the answer to “Why people get it wrong in choosing a marriage partner’,  although I will cover what men and need in a partner in terms of the Pareto Principle, more commonly referred to as the 80/20 Rule.

If you aren’t aware, the 80/20 Rule states that in just about anything you do, 80% of your effort will produce 20% of your results, and 20% of your effort will create 80% of the results. It’s used all the time in a wide array of areas of study, including economics, business and self-help among others. 20% of your customers will give you 80% of your profits. 80% of your friends you’ll only hang out with 20% of the time. 20% of a country’s wealth will come from 80% of its population. On and on… it can be applied to almost anything.

I’m of the opinion that the 80/20 rule is often abused to justify men’s failures or successes with women (more often failure), however the fundamental notion is both observable and easily verifiable in-field as well as statistically

How do we apply it here, 80% of men get it wrong in choosing a partner, why, because they go for just 20% in her, which is basically WHAT they need. Only 20% get it right, by looking for a partner who is 80% what they actually NEED

The woman a man WANTS is not necessarily The woman a man NEEDS

We all WANT her with BIG ass, but actually what we NEED is a woman with a BIG heart
 
We all WANT her in HIGH heels but we actually need is a woman with HIGH morals
 
We all WANT her in a nice MATERIAL, but what we actually NEED is a wife MATERIAL
 
We all want one who LOVES us, but what we men actually need is a woman who RESPECTS us
 
We all WANT a self dependent woman, but you know what we NEED, one who depends on us, and appreciates it, thats what massages our ego, the feeling of importance
 
A knowledgeable man will look out for the WANTS, a wise man will look out for the NEEDS

So fellow men, when looking for a woman to be your wife, watch out for 80% what you NEED and just 20% of what you actually WANT

@mwanaareginah

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Fate and Destiny,,What gives” -part 2

Read Part 1 here

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Question: “What does the Bible say about fate / destiny?”

Answer: This is a very complex issue, and we will start with what the Bible does not teach. Fate is usually thought of as a predetermined course of events beyond human control. A typical response to a belief in fate is resignation—if we can’t change destiny, then why even try? Whatever happens, happens, and we can’t do anything about it. This is called “fatalism,” and it is not biblical.

Fatalism is a major premise of Islam, which demands total submission to the sovereignty of Allah, but am not going to go that road of religion here, thats for another day

Fate and Destiny – Our Free Will

The Bible teaches that Man was created with the ability to make moral choices and that he is responsible for those choices. The Fall of Man was not a predetermined event in which Adam and Eve were hapless victims of a Puppet-Master God. On the contrary, Adam and his wife had the ability to choose obedience (with its attendant blessing) or disobedience (with its consequent curse). They knew what the result of their decision would be, and they were held accountable (Genesis 3).

This theme of being held accountable for our choices continues throughout Scripture. “He who sows wickedness reaps trouble” (Proverbs 22:8a). “All hard work brings a profit, / but mere talk leads only to poverty” (Proverbs 14:23). “Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and he will commend you” (Romans 13:3).

Often, when the Bible speaks of destiny, it’s in reference to a destiny people have brought upon themselves: “Many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction” (Philippians 3:18-19). “This is the fate of those who trust in themselves” (Psalm 49:13). “A man who commits adultery lacks judgment; / whoever does so destroys himself” (Proverbs 6:32). “Each person was judged according to what he had done” (Revelation 20:13).

Enough of the scriptures now,,,

Scripture also teaches that we choose to have faith. The often-repeated command in Scripture to believe implies that we do have a choice in the matter. “Be not faithless, but believing” (John 20:27; see also Acts 16:31; 19:4),

okay, those are the last ones, no, seriously

Having taken you through whats assumed and ‘what could be true’ about this two confusing events, here I note down what I believe in, and how I do differentiate them

Most people use fate and destiny interchangeably, but they aren’t the same. Fate is the life you lead if you never put yourself in the path of greatness. That’s the direction your life moves in without any effort on your part. That’s your fate. Fate is a negative and is defined as the expected result of normal development. Normal development. Never taking a risk is your inevitable fate.

Put simply: destiny is opportunity and fate is karma. We are in control of our destiny but have no control over our fate. Destiny cannot be forced on us; if we are forced then it is our fate. Destiny gives us an opportunity to turn a situation to our advantage and accomplish something great through our own efforts. It is designed to give us the best opportunities for the development of our consciousness, but it is only an outline – not an exact script. It doesn’t detract from our free-will in any way, because we decide exactly how we want to act in any situation.

The basic outline for our life was planned (pre-destined) before we were born to give us the right opportunities for growth. But we don’t have to follow the pre-destined route if we don’t want to. A life plan can be compared to a maze, and our life’s purpose is to complete the maze. We don’t know where we are going or where we will end up, so all we can do is make our way through life using our best judgment.

Every wrong turn leads to a dead end and every correct turn leads to progress. A correct turn may not correspond to success in the physical sense, for example: failing to get a promotion may not seem like the best outcome from a financial perspective, but it might actually be the best outcome for the development of your consciousness. We all occasionally make what appear to be bad decisions, but if we learn from those seemingly wrong decisions we eventually discover that they were in fact right decisions.

If we deviate from our life’s plan we may need to be coaxed back on to the right track, and the further we stray from the optimal path the harder the lessons get. Every choice we make affects our future and therefore our destiny. Right now we are experiencing the destiny (and the karma) that arose from choices we made in the past.

Destiny is your potential waiting to happen. It’s the top tier in the grand scheme of possibilities and where your dreams come true. You have to be willing to take that first step to reach your potential, even if it’s a risk. With great risk comes great failure. Let’s flip that phrase around. With great risk comes great reward. Ultimately, that means there’s no greater risk than no risk at all.

 

This is a motto I’ve lived by for years. I’m willing to put myself out there in an effort to achieve my goals. With that said, I’m not reckless with my ventures. This concept is not about risking your health or livelihood. It’s about being willing to step outside your comfort zone to pursue your passion.

 

I chose my own destiny — a destiny still in the making, I didnt know whether I was making the right choice when I resigned from my previous job into fresh job hunting, but my deliberate choices led me to where I am and straight into the arms of my true love. I put the pieces in place along the way, but it wasn’t until I had to take my biggest risk of being jobless again, but today, I look back and realize i shaped my life then into what it is today.

Your destiny is in your hands, not in fate

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@MwanaaReginah

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FATE and DESTINY, what gives”

destinyYesterday while I was comfortably sitting on my toilet seat, I had an interesting food for thought,,,,,,where? what? Yes, I do think while am in that room, come on,is it not the same with bathroom karaoke,and its a free world anyway.

Back to my mind, now, we all talk about fate and destiny, the difference, the meaning,,the weird,,,et all et all, and I wondered, if DETERMINANTS believe that there‘s no free will in human actions/events, and that everything that happens to us is pre-determined, n the idea that every event is necessitated by antecedent events and laws of nature, in other words, our FATE is sealed?

As for those who believe in Destiny, in free will, the LIBERTARIANS, those who believe that nothing pre-determines our actions, that we have the freedom to shape the events, how the hell are we supposed to shape our destiny if we have laws (NOTE: not laws of nature) governing us, and is money supposed to be involved, is it not the main determinant here?

Now, for the COMPATILISTS, you who believe that the human free will and determinism are compatible ideas, and that it is possible to believe in both. that FATE can be sealed and that we can still shape our DESTINY, arent you guys just confused, I mean, how can you shape an event that has final results sealed?

I have been reading alot of sites about this two believes, and  trying to figure and actually finger this out if need be, but the more I try the more I am convinced this scientists just play around with our minds, they are more confused than we are

Look what they say here http://info.happy-science.org/2015/86/

The Factors that Form a Person’s Fate

A person’s fate is decided by a complex combination of conditions and factors. Some of them are already decided at the time of a person’s birth and some of them come into play later and shape the course further. There are five factors that form our fate or destiny:

Tendencies of our soul, otherwise known as karma
Family environment
Social climate ( a friend of mine calls this ‘the weather factor’, hehe)
Our own efforts and self-discipline
Influence of other people

Amongest the factors that shape our fate or destiny, some of them are settled and some are not. It means that we have a certain scope to change our fate or destiny by our own efforts. Factor 2 (the family environment) and factor 3 (the social climate) are elements that should be called the “destiny that is decided” before we are born; however, there is a great secret involved in these too. Namely, before each reincarnation we draw up a plan for our spiritual training and we are born having agreed to such details as our parents, the environment, the social climate and our gender. However, as soon as we are born into this world, we forget it.

Knowing this truth, we can classify the factors that form our fate into another way:

The plan we draw up before reincarnation
Spiritual influences
Our efforts since we came onto the earth (Now here is where they lose me, I mean, are they saying that our efforts on earth can change our fate? No,,but its all here, and they just said ,,,,,” are elements that should be called the “destiny that is decided” before we are born,,,,,,”, its not me, I mean.

Now,,ok, I wont go further, because am actually lost, ,,, who needs some crisps?

watch out for part 2   ( Part 2 is out, read it here)

@mwanaareginah

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Huge Chapatis, Passion and Enthusiasm

SKILLS & EXPERIENCE vs PASSION & ETHUSIASM

I have some errands to run

That’s no problem, you must be there

I will be in Mombasa

That’s no problem, you must be there

That was a man I considered an elder brother, a longtime friend, a friend I considered my mentor, a man who had shaped me as an individual, a man who triggered and fueled my leadership thirst. He wanted me to be at his home the coming weekend day, he didn’t not want to listen to what I might be doing, all he wanted was me to be there. In a week’s time, he was launching his political bid, and a small team was converging in his local home to strategize on how he will go about it

For years we the people of our local constituency complained of poor leadership, but he decided to take the problem as his own and do something about it, and the only best way was to be the leader people yearned for. When he announced to me that he was going for the position in the next general elections, I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. He taught me that if you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it at full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it

Some weeks back I had been diagnosed with a bad malaria, and I wasn’t of the idea of much travel, I was in Nairobi, and going to his place meant taking a bus to some 150+ Kms away, a not so good idea in my state of health, but this was a man I could not just say no to, he had done a lot in my life, and I would go miles (see the pan there) to be there for him. Plus I was doing a dissertation on political science, and mingling with this kind of characters was one way of getting it right

I managed to convince a friend to accompany me to the place, and come the day, we hired a car for the journey, a not soo new Toyota. It smelt of a lodging more than it smelt of a car, it smelt of those lodging soaps (all men know the smell of that soap), the driver must be a man of the night, I thought as I started the engine

Dennis, the friend who accompanied me is a maniac, a tall crazy dude who loved life and the fun, big bodied women and whisky, he called it the greatest combination, whisky and bodied women, I call it a quagmire of combination. The man is somewhat too tall for his build; were he a few inches shorter he would be all the more handsome for it. It was as if he stopped growing only to be stretched on one of those medieval racks a half-foot more. His face is mostly obscured by a red scraggly beard that clung to his skin. Somehow he isn’t lanky though, there’s bulk on him too; muscles beneath the tight tees he wore. I wonder how many jokes and comments about his stature he gets daily, jibes about “the air being thin up there.”

I preferred this guy when going for road trips sort of, he knew cars and their problems like the back of his palms, he could tell you what the problem was through the phone while miles away, all you had to do was describe the symptoms, thank God this day we didn’t have any problems with the car

When we arrived at the old village market, I remembered an old hotel we used to eat a very spicy nyamachoma and chapatis, decided to check it. KIKUMINI was its name, the market, I didn’t expect to find this hotel running, and even so, I didn’t expect to find the same kind of standards with the food. The hotel set on the middle of two old blocks of unfinished flats, both were built and abandoned after the first floor. The owners seemed to have bought the old dilapidated mabati houses that sat there before, and embarked on setting up a flat with two or three floors, unfortunately the old philosophy of ‘build and abandon’ that seemed to engulf the whole market caught up with them, leaving most of the buildings derelict.

At the entrance was an old ragged chair. It was mahogany with cherubs chiseled into the sides. On the top was a Brown cushion which was worn and tatty, it wasn’t really brown, but it had turned to Brown against its wish, Brown was the colour of poverty. This hotel that was once a beacon of its age now resembles something that has been through a war. Nothing so dramatic has befallen it, just more years that can be counted without feeling the loosening of the mind. Inside it was one huge cavernous room, with a makeshift wooden counter at far end. The set-up had not changed all those years, and the furniture seemed to be the same ones I ate on some twenty years ago.

The top of our table was gouged wood and the legs dented metal with chipped red paint. We chose a table next to the door, the table was built of strong wood, with one side leaning, its legs were not balanced, I noticed the legs were not looking the same, one seemed to have been removed from another table and attached to its current owner, a sign of how the owner had tried all means for the business to survive over the years.  Long ago this floor must have been a polished marble, even now there are patches that show through the encroaching mud and leaf detritus.

The waiter came from the back of the room, pink in the face, her blonde bangs pasted to her forehead with either steam or sweat. She looked like a woman who had given up on life. Her once white uniform was stained and her hair greasy. Her eyes had a strange sunken look and were threaded with scarlet so densely that they appeared pink. Her cheeks glowed under broken veins; her actions were slow, clumsy. She served us nyamachoma, matumbo (loins) soup and chapatis as ordered.

The chapatis were huge and surprisingly soft to the touch, a standard that had remained in this hotel down the years. They were so big that you get tempted to call your entire clan to share with them, if Jesus was teaching around today, he would not need to ‘multiply’ the bread with availability of this  chapatis, one was enough to feed a thousand men, but served with matumbo, not fish. Talking of which, what happened to the fish heads during that feast of bread and fish, did this people eat all of the heads, and were there Luo’s around then? Just asking for my neighbor

If I was an advisor to a politician, this chapatis would have given me a great idea, we would start a ‘schools feeding program’ , funded by CDF, , we would just hire this chef to go around every school cooking 5 chapatis each, that would feed an entire population and surrounding community, food for thought ( Great pan there). With this kind of chapati, you would be so full that you won’t be in a position to stomach mediocrity, stupidity and political ignorance

The rich aroma of the nyamchom wafted down and beckoned you .You could not resist the delightful sensations that whipped up inside your memory at the mere thought of delving your teeth deep and fast into the pulpy texture of the beef

This hotel belonged to a man called wambua. In our tribe Wambua meant one born during rainy season. The guy had maintained the standards of the hotel the same, years down the line. Years back while I was still a young boy in primary school; many attributed the huge soft chapatis and the mouthwatering nyamchom to the then chief chef, who was labeled the undisputed champion of the kitchen. It was said the guy could make over hundred chapatis within an hour, and yet maintain the same size and texture, his name was Kimondiu.

One day, Kimondiu woke up and decided to resign, or leave, or whatever it is they call ‘leaving’ here. He left for greener pastures, someone snatched him from this business he had made a name for more than Ten years then, someone promised him heaven and earth, a harm and leg for him to be a supervisor in aa new opened hotel, someone stole him from where he made his daily bread or rather chapatis for years

Kimondiu left with his apron, and passion on his back, but what he didn’t know he couldn’t leave with, was the hotel philosophy. It remained undeterred. The standard size and texture of the chapatis remained the same; the sweet aroma of the nyamchom was sustained, as hard as it was. The owner of this hotel had built a philosophy that was transferred from this chief chef to others. He foresaw the future, he knew one day Kimondiu won’t be there, and by training other young vibrant chefs on the same standards, he had prepared for the future, life after ‘king of the Kitchen’

Many businesses fall for failure to prepare after the future. Many people have built their business around them, they are the Administration managers and they are the Accountants, they are procurement officers and the IT professionals, everything goes through them, they have not anticipated of a situation where someone else will take over from them

In business, you need to build replacement, you need to build and package a mentor in whom you can place the weight of your roles and responsibilities when time comes. Business need not die with your leaving. Companies need not die with your resignation, your legacy should not walk with you through the door, your legacy should not follow you to uncertainty. You should mould your skills, believes and philosophies onto others, who will take your work further, without much of a strain, that’s how a legacy is build, that’s how its left behind

When you have a business, as much as much of its success is attributed to certain employees, do not let them leave with the philosophy. Put young guys with the same passion under them, let them learn the undisputed skills, let them get the secrets that makes this other employees’ job tick

When Kimondiu left, he joined a new venture, which I understand though is a huge and modern hotel itself, it lacks the size and texture, and sweet aroma enjoyed in Wambua’s hotel. Kimondiu has never, with his skills, great skills he worn on his sleeves and experience, rekindled the kind of passion he cooked with at Wambua’s. It was gone, evaporated into thin air, as a local guy would put it, just like that

Most of us leave for greener pastures, with a lot of fresh promises and wet expectations on the other side, but we leave the passion and enthusiasm behind. The passion that was our goals, the enthusiasm brought about by our old colleagues, we forget this two, fuel our skills and experience for the required kind of package in any profession. Without passion, any new expectations will go down the drain, without enthusiasm, not even the experience we have built over the years will help rekindle the fire within

Before you choose to leave, choose to stay.

@MwanaaReginah

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OSMAN AND BUSINESS PRINCIPLES

 

….One trip is 5Ksh if you ‘drive’ yourself, 10kshs if I ‘drive’ you,,”,

That was Osman, a 7yr old boy in my neighborhood, explaining how he charges other kids who want to ‘drive’ his ‘car’, the car here being an old ragged suitcase. It was brown in colour, and the covers ripped open, a great convertible it was. The rollers/ tyres looked well kept, still strong with good balancing.

Kids would pay Osman, and then comfortably sit in the suitcase, and he would then push or pull it, just the way guys do when walking around the airports, all this while making different motor sounds. I got interested with Osman’s business one Sunday evening just when I was driving towards my gate, past their usual playground.

Osman was pulling his suitcase in a faster speed than he normally did, he was making an ambulance sound,,,,,’wiu wiu wiu wiuuuuuu wiu wiu wiu wiuuuuu”…..two other kids were walking semi running on both sides of the case, and kept touching and like checking the ‘patient’ on this ambulance. I braked kidogo just so as I could have a good view of the scene. The ambulance had now rushed past my car, and was going towards my gate.

They opened the gate and the ambulance went in, as I stepped out of my own car to open the gate. Inside, I found the two kids who were semi running around the ambulance attending to the ‘patient’, who had now being ‘wheeled’ out of the ambulance and laid down under one of the balcony shades. The patient was my neighbor’s  5yr old daughter, and she was pregnant, not literally, just according to their game

Just after I had minded my own business enough, I saw Osman getting a coin from each of the girls, and leaving. I waited till he was out of the gate (sikua nataka nye nye za hao ladies, one was ‘pregnant’, you know) when I followed him and called him. I was ready to ask him some questions about his booming ‘business’.

…so how much did you get from that entire ordeal?’

20ksh

20,,wow, aint that expensive for them?

The ambulance is expensive

So you have a different charge for this kind of a game?

Yes, and the police game too

I looked at this young intelligent man standing next to me, and it was just amazing. I gave him a 10ksh as I let him go. Inside the plot, the patient had given birth to a bouncing baby b….. ok, didn’t get to know the sex of the ‘baby’. Those three girls had aspirations to be nurses, doctors, and mothers, it was all there, them paying 20kshs to Osman for that kind of game just shown how valid their dreams were, nothing would stop them, oh lord, nothing should,, I said a prayer for them as I went up the stairs.

A week after

I found some kids on the playground with Osman’s ‘car’. I could see a young boy in a yellow tee and white shorts sitting on some construction bricks at the edge of the field. The bricks sat around a dug trench, which looked like it was done in a rush. The owner must have done it in rush excited by the fact that he was putting up a flat, a dream that never took off, another dead dream. The bricks were now brown, withered from rain and constant sunrays.

The young boy sat on those bricks watching as other kids played around, and I was sure that was him, Osman the boss, he normally didn’t play much himself, he was always watching, and thinking, and deciding, and making money, out of his fellow kids, Osman the boss

I gestured him to come by, I wanted to find out how he was fairing with his ‘business’, but when this boy started walking towards me, I realized it wasn’t him, Osman would walk with one hand tucked in his pocket, and the other swinging as he walked, this one had his hands on his head.

Whats your name

Ali

Ali,,I like that name Ali, Do you Know Osman?

Yes, he went to the beach

Beach, but I see his suitcase

He left me in charge

Now that point there got me thinking..’he left me in charge’

Osman had chosen Ali to head his ‘transport’ business as he went to have some fun along the beach. He would enjoy some sunrays with comfort knowing very well his ‘business’ was running, even in his absence, this young man Osman

How many people have started their business, and have lacked the acumen of driving it forward, they have lacked the vision of changing with the business trends, How many businesses do we know have come down crumbling because the owners/ management did not put in place right measures to counter competition

This young man had his business running effectively because he had done the right adjustments. He ventured into ‘ambulance services’ once he noticed there was more income, he didn’t stay put on his normal transport services, he was not rigid, and he put his hands where money was. That is a business principle, FLEXIBILITY

When the business grew, this young entrepreneur put the right measures to maintain and sustain the growth; he brought someone else to manage for him while he was away. Bring the right people in the business to own the vision, to sustain the vision and take the business forward, do not be selfish like I have seen some do, do not be so untrustworthy with the leadership mantle, mentor and package someone to take over from you when you are not there, because eventually you are going to be out of office, prepare for that time when it comes, that is a business principle, SUSTAINABILITY

It always seems impossible until it’s done. It feels so uncomfortable trusting others into what you have built over the years, afraid they might not understand it, throwing your business into uncertainty, but that’s the joy of Life, it begins at the end of comfortless. The business is no longer a baby, it has built a name for itself, and the name can drive itself even with very minimal input from others.

Chase the vision, not the money; the money will end up following you. Money doesn’t lead; it follows

 

@MwanaaReginah

 

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21 Ways Rich People Think Differently

1. Average people think MONEY is the root of all evil. Rich people believe POVERTY is the root of all evil.

 The average person has been brainwashed to believe rich people are lucky or dishonest,” Siebold writes.

That’s why there’s a certain shame that comes along with “getting rich” in lower-income communities.

“The world class knows that while having money doesn’t guarantee happiness, it does make your life easier and more enjoyable.”

2. Average people think selfishness is a vice. Rich people think selfishness is a virtue.

“The rich go out there and try to make themselves happy. They don’t try to pretend to save the world”.

The problem is that middle class people see that as a negative––and it’s keeping them poor.

“If you’re not taking care of you, you’re not in a position to help anyone else. You can’t give what you don’t have.”

3. Average people have a lottery mentality. Rich people have an action mentality.

“While the masses are waiting to pick the right numbers and praying for prosperity, the great ones are solving problems,”

“The hero [middle class people] are waiting for may be God, government, their boss or their spouse. It’s the average person’s level of thinking that breeds this approach to life and living while the clock keeps ticking away.”

4. Average people think the road to riches is paved with formal education. Rich people believe in acquiring specific knowledge.

“Many world-class performers have little formal education, and have amassed their wealth through the acquisition and subsequent sale of specific knowledge”.

“Meanwhile, the masses are convinced that master’s degrees and doctorates are the way to wealth, mostly because they are trapped in the linear line of thought that holds them back from higher levels of consciousness…The wealthy aren’t interested in the means, only the end.”

5. Average people long for the good old days. Rich people dream of the future.

 “Self-made millionaires get rich because they’re willing to bet on themselves and project their dreams, goals and ideas into an unknown future”.

“People who believe their best days are behind them rarely get rich, and often struggle with unhappiness and depression.”

6. Average people see money through the eyes of emotion. Rich people think about money logically.

“An ordinarily smart, well-educated and otherwise successful person can be instantly transformed into a fear-based, scarcity driven thinker whose greatest financial aspiration is to retire comfortably”.

“The world class sees money for what it is and what it’s not, through the eyes of logic. The great ones know money is a critical tool that presents options and opportunities.”

7. Average people earn money doing things they don’t love. Rich people follow their passion.

 “To the average person, it looks like the rich are working all the time,” Siebold says. “But one of the smartest strategies of the world class is doing what they love and finding a way to get paid for it.”

On the other hand, middle class take jobs they don’t enjoy “because they need the money and they’ve been trained in school and conditioned by society to live in a linear thinking world that equates earning money with physical or mental effort.”

8. Average people set low expectations so they’re never disappointed. Rich people are up for the challenge.

“Psychologists and other mental health experts often advise people to set low expectations for their life to ensure they are not disappointed”.

“No one would ever strike it rich and live their dreams without huge expectations.”

9. Average people believe you have to DO something to get rich. Rich people believe you have to BE something to get rich.

 “That’s why people like Donald Trump go from millionaire to nine billion dollars in debt and come back richer than ever,” he writes.

“While the masses are fixated on the doing and the immediate results of their actions, the great ones are learning and growing from every experience, whether it’s a success or a failure, knowing their true reward is becoming a human success machine that eventually produces outstanding results.”

10. Average people believe you need money to make money. Rich people use other people’s money.

Linear thought might tell people to make money in order to earn more, but Siebold says the rich aren’t afraid to fund their future from other people’s pockets.

“Rich people know not being solvent enough to personally afford something is not relevant. The real question is, ‘Is this worth buying, investing in, or pursuing?’”

11. Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they’re driven by emotion and greed.

 Investing successfully in the stock market isn’t just about a fancy math formula.

“The rich know that the primary emotions that drive financial markets are fear and greed, and they factor this into all trades and trends they observe.”

“This knowledge of human nature and its overlapping impact on trading give them strategic advantage in building greater wealth through leverage.”

12. Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.

 “Here’s how to live below your means and tap into the secret wealthy people have used for centuries: Get rich so you can afford to.”

“The rich live below their means, not because they’re so savvy, but because they make so much money that they can afford to live like royalty while still having a king’s ransom socked away for the future.”

13. Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their kids to get rich.

Rich parents teach their kids from an early age about the world of “haves” and “have-nots,” Siebold says. Even he admits many people have argued that he’s supporting the idea of elitism.

He disagrees.

“[People] say parents are teaching their kids to look down on the masses because they’re poor. This isn’t true,” he writes. “What they’re teaching their kids is to see the world through the eyes of objective reality––the way society really is.”

If children understand wealth early on, they’ll be more likely to strive for it later in life.

14. Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.

 The reason wealthy people earn more wealth is that they’re not afraid to admit that money can solve most problems, Siebold says.

“[The middle class] sees money as a never-ending necessary evil that must be endured as part of life. The world class sees money as the great liberator, and with enough of it, they are able to purchase financial peace of mind.”

15. Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.

 While the rich don’t put much stock in furthering wealth through formal education, they appreciate the power of learning long after college is over, Siebold says.

“Walk into a wealthy person’s home and one of the first things you’ll see is an extensive library of books they’ve used to   educate themselves on how to become more successful.”

“The middle class reads novels, tabloids and entertainment magazines.”

16. Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.

 The negative money mentality poisoning the middle class is what keeps the rich hanging out with the rich, he says.

“[Rich people] can’t afford the messages of doom and gloom,” he writes. “This is often misinterpreted by the masses as snobbery.

Labeling the world class as snobs is another way the middle class finds to feel better bout themselves and their chosen path of mediocrity.”

17. Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.

Siebold theorizes that the wealthy focus on what they’ll gain by taking risks, rather than how to save what they have.

“The masses are so focused on clipping coupons and living frugally they miss major opportunities.”

“Even in the midst of a cash flow crisis, the rich reject the nickle and dime thinking of the masses. They are the masters of focusing their mental energy where it belongs: on the big money.”

18. Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.

 Leverage is the watchword of the rich.”

“Every investor loses money on occasion, but the world class knows no matter what happens, they will aways be able to earn more.”

19. Average people love to be comfortable. Rich people find comfort in uncertainty.

 For the most part, it takes guts to take the risks necessary to make it as a millionaire––a challenge most middle class thinkers aren’t comfortable living with.

“Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle class mindset,” Siebold writes.

World class thinkers learn early on that becoming a millionaire isn’t easy and the need for comfort can be devastating. They learn to be comfortable while operating in a state of ongoing uncertainty.”

20. Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.

While the middle class squabbles over the virtues of Obama care and their company’s health plan, the super wealthy are enrolled in a super elite “boutique medical care” association.”

“They pay a substantial yearly membership fee that guarantees them 24-hour access to a private physician who only serves a small group of members.”

“Some wealthy neighborhoods have implemented this strategy and even require the physician to live in the neighborhood.”

21. Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.

The idea that wealth must come at the expense of family time is nothing but a “cop-out.”

“The masses have been brainwashed to believe it’s an either/or equation,” he writes. “The rich know you can have anything you want if you approach the challenge with a mindset rooted in love and abundance.”

From Steve Siebold, author of “How Rich People Think”

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